While many people seem to forget the other side of school - this foreign “social/private life” seldom talked of - I myself am having some difficulty becoming the ideal grad student who does experiments by day and writes papers by night. It seems like a lot of people are that way though… certainly many people in my lab do this without batting an eye! It’s admirable, but I think they find it easier because their significant others, family, and friends are all thousands of miles away. Myself, I love spending time with Lionel when I’m not in the lab, and I have many hobbies which I find equally important as school to keep me sane, lol. I still feel guilty for not being totally devoted though… I mean, if everyone else is, what does that make me look like? Thankfully I am ignoring this fact because I know I’d just go crazy if I didn’t have “me” time, LOL.
I was actually talking to Blair about this when we had lunch on Friday. We went to the new Cafe Crepe on campus - the first time I ever got a panini and my god are they fantastic! I took Lionel there for lunch the following day, LOL - anyway, we talked about all kinds of things, but she pretty much shares my feelings about the “ideal grad student.” Basically what we’ve worked out is that the grand experience of grad school, from the classes to the supervisors to other grad students, has made us internalize this idealized image, such that we both feel guilty even when we are away from the lab, at home, watching TV! It was great to hear that I wasn’t the only one who thinks I should be cramming knowledge in my head during advertising breaks, lol. We don’t really know how this internalized guilt was placed in us, but it’s brilliant really - the perfect built in drive to keep grad students producing. We’re determined not to succumb though :D
In other news, I found out Blair has been dating a guy since February - a South African guy! She met him at international orientation (Blair’s from the US). She didn’t mention him until now because she wanted to make sure it wasn’t just a passing thing, which is smart in my opinion. It might be cool if the four of us could go somewhere to forget our daily toils, lol. Either way, I told her she can’t go wrong with South African men and we both agreed the accent is quite charming :D (Loves ya Lionel!)